We hang on to our arrows, not realizing that arrows aren’t meant to stay in the quiver. OK, maybe it isn’t that we won’t let them leave, but we don’t pave a way or facilitate their departure. Our children don’t need to see a perfect facade, they need to see the inner structure and foundation.Īnother issue common to Christian homeschoolers is the tendency to micromanage our children, sometimes even to the extent of not letting our arrows leave the quiver. The second their faith falters or they are faced with something they don’t understand, they are paralyzed.Īgain, it goes back to Psalm 127:1 – our house isn’t supposed to be built with OUR hands (our successes, our pride, etc.), but with the Lord as the master builder. They grow up assuming living a Christian life means always having laser-focused faith, no doubts, and answers to everything. We are desperate to assert our authority and have all the answers, but in doing so we do our children a disservice. One of the biggest pitfalls I see among Christian homeschooling parents is the desire to appear “perfect” to our children. In raising our arrows, we should always be seeking the Lord and running back to Him when we mess up. He was repentant, respectful, and reverent. He made colossal mistakes, yet God considers him “ a man after my own heart.” David recognized his mistakes and shortcomings and kept humbly seeking the Lord in spite of it all. Raising Arrows is about how awesome God is at covering our messes if we simply build our household on His principles (which aren’t complex and rule-ridden, by the way).īest Book for Helping You Homeschool Yourĭavid was by many standards, a horrible parent, husband, and leader. Raising Arrows in NOT about how awesome we are at parenting. This is one reason when we are thrown a curve ball like a special needs child or the death of a child, we find ourselves feeling lost…” unless the Lord builds the house.“ We want kids who are quiet, stand in neat lines, and complete our Christmas card photos nicely. We want the American dream with a house, a dog, and 2 kids – a boy and a girl, please. People tend to build their households on things like success, selfishness, pride, and even loneliness and greed can factor in. Psalms 127:1aĪs Christians, we are to build our homes God’s way. In order to really get an understanding of what it means to raise arrows, you need to start at the beginning of the passage where it says, The arrows honed under difficult circumstances are not doomed to be crooked and unruly, but they will always carry with them a remembrance of the conditions in which they were raised.
Rather than go into good and bad parenting methods and practices, let me simply say that no matter how bad the parenting is, there are always good and bad things carried on from that relationship.
They carry on our name, our traditions, and our faith far beyond the places we can physically reach by ourselves.Įvery parent influences their children and that influence carries on far beyond the walls of the home in which they were raised. Psalm 127:4 (ESV)Īt first glance, it might seem strange that children would be likened to something sharp and dangerous, but it’s more about how far-reaching arrows are.Īs verse 3 says, “children are a heritage from the Lord.” Our children are gifts from God to us and they are our legacy. The verse in the Bible that alludes to “raising arrows” is Psalm 127:4.Īre the children of one’s youth. (If you want to find out more about me, you can go here > ) And here I am, many years later still blogging about those things and still raising a quiver-full! When I began blogging in 2005 (yes, 2005 – bet you didn’t even know blogs existed back then!), I chose the name Raising Arrows because I wanted to blog about being a Christian mom and homeschooler. We had 2 small children, and I was desperately wishing for more “arrows” to fill my quiver. In the early days of my parenting, I was drawn to the verses above because my husband was in the military and also a hunter. When he speaks with his enemies in the gate. Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD,
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